MamaNurture- Our Postpartum Support Service

We wish that in North America brand new parents were embraced and taken care of the way they are in other cultures. 

In other cultures, women are cared for, tended to and cherished for 40 days postpartum. The village is there for them and walks with them through the first weeks of motherhood. We believe every family needs and deserves this!

We have worked as birth and postpartum doulas for a quarter of a century. We see the value and the enrichment in caring for families as they navigate the territory of parenthood, which is very often very different than the "map" they thought would lead them into this new world! 

We are offering 3 or 4 hour care packages. These packages include:

Newborn care education

Breastfeeding support

Sleep support

light housekeeping (not full on vacuuming, cleaning toilets, washing windows) like tidying up and helping with baby's laundry 

Holding babe while you eat, sleep, shower

Normalizing your experiences

Providing additional professional support and resources if needed

What we come with:

Newborn diapers, MamaNurture bath bombs, homemade soup and a lot of love. 

This service is offered at $22 an hour. 

Gift certificates can be purchased for new families.

All of our practitioners are Certified Perinatal Support Practitioners, have completed Mothering The Mother, Minding The Mind emotional health well being training and are Mothers themselves.

For more information, to purchase a gift certificate or to register yourself for this program, email Carol at kilty67@sympatico.ca 

We so look forward to working with you. xoxo

Palliative Care Support Practitioner Program

As a society, we are not comfortable speaking about or discussing death. For many, there is little to no preparation in the eventuality of death. Our Palliative Care Support Practitioner Program is designed to help families with an eventual death in the home and how to navigate all of the required steps that need to be taken. The program's focus is on the emotional support of the person transitioning to death and their family as well as guiding them through the important "what ifs and how to's" of end of life care.

Co-facilitated by a Registered Nurse in palliative care (who is also a doula) and a birth/death doula, this program will include input from specialists in end of life care. Students will learn from various community based guest speakers about the community standards, policies and procedures and the scope of practice of support practitioners in end of life care. Students will also learn how to set up a support based business through the course.

The program will take place over 7 in class days. Once the students have been selected for the program, the group will co-operatively pick the remaining six days for the class after the initial start of January 21st 2017. Because we understand that most people work full time, the program will run on either a Saturday or Sunday from January until May. If a student must miss a class they will be brought up to speed on the curriculum by one of the instructors. Because we know life is messy and busy!  The program will run out of Babies Naturally, 1124 Gainsborough Rd. London Ontario.

There will be required readings and at home study as well as an online component of the class which will involve video learning and assignments to give the class a total compounded learning of 80 hours.

The cost of the class will be $1000.00 with a non refundable deposit of $250 hours once acceptance into the program is extended. The remaining fee is due the first day of class.

The class is open to 14 students. For more information or for enquiries, please contact Carol at kilty67@sympatico.ca

 

 

Advanced Postpartum Doula Training Online! Filling In the Huge Gaps in Postpartum Care

In over 25 years of working with families, I have noticed (as I am sure all of you have!) that the support we offer families in the postpartum is sadly lacking. We don't prepare families for the massive new journey they are on and we certainly don't take care of the emotional, mental and spiritual health of women! We truly are a birth centred culture and we do not understand the importance of encouraging families to have a solid postpartum care plan. I found in my postpartum doula training that there was no solid training in the emotional and mental health care for families. Neuroscience tells us that our brains change in pregnancy and after we give birth and we can use these changes to our advantage, educate our clients on them and help them benefit from the way we should be feeling in the postpartum! The neuroplasticity of the brain and the changes the brain goes through can be utilized to help make postpartum easier-with a full understanding of this and with support and guidance! Birth is not only about babies-it is about making Mums too! For years there have been gaps in the knowledge about postpartum-but with new neuroscience we can help families bond more deeply, as well as restore age old traditions and implement practical ways to support families for a much more relaxed and less anxiety ridden postpartum. 

We are thrilled to be offering an online postpartum doula training program! This program will be delivered in 7 modules, is self-paced learning and will help you fill in those gaps for the families you work with. Help Mums find the joy more readily in postpartum, embrace what the postpartum physiology of the brain and body are meant to do and nurture the families you work with! I cannot tell you the difference this has made in the families I am working with after learning this information over the past three years. I am so excited to share it with you so you in turn can share it with your clients! 

The course is open now for registration and will be offered at an introductory price of $375. You will receive an advanced postpartum doula training certificate upon completion and will have 20 hours of credit for continuing education. 

To register or if you have any questions, please contact Carol at kilty67@sympatico.ca

I look forward to working with you!  

Mother's Day Is Loaded

The images of Hallmark cards, hand made necklaces, tiny baby footprints, glittered macaroni and new seedlings in the damp earth tiny pudgy fingers pushed into ripped up egg cartons abound this weekend. It is in North America one of the most loaded "holidays" ever to be created. The history of the origins of Mother's Day are is captured by The History Channel:

"Celebrations of mothers and motherhood can be traced back to the ancient Greeks and Romans, who held festivals in honor of the mother goddesses Rhea and Cybele, but the clearest modern precedent for Mother’s Day is the early Christian festival known as “Mothering Sunday.” Once a major tradition in the United Kingdom and parts of Europe, this celebration fell on the fourth Sunday in Lent and was originally seen as a time when the faithful would return to their “mother church”—the main church in the vicinity of their home—for a special service. Over time the Mothering Sunday tradition shifted into a more secular holiday, and children would present their mothers with flowers and other tokens of appreciation. This custom eventually faded in popularity before merging with the American Mother’s Day in the 1930s and 1940s."

 

For many the holiday itself is loaded. It is loaded with emotions, memories, the lack of memories or emotions, with hurt, with regret, with confusion, with a sense of duty. Motherless women, loss Mamas, single Mothers, single Fathers, women unable to able conceive, adoptive Mothers, women whose own Mothers have never validated them, women who believe that no matter what, anyone other than them would be better for their children- struggle with this celebration. Women who, to the outside world seem to "have it all" struggle. Here's the rub- this day is relative to each person's experience of what "Mother" means. 

To the brand new Mother, it may be a reminder of all that she should be. She may not know who she should be, how she should act, feel, believe or understand. To the woman who has recently lost her partner her "mothering" will be viewed through a new lens. Society and generational beliefs will set us all up to believe that we may not be "mother enough." Oh how we are. All of us. 

I have been watching the robin outside my front window. She decided to build her nest this year in the small tree in my front garden, probably because the morning doves took over the nest inhabited by robins for the last six years in the eaves above my front door. 

In the last six years the robins in the eaves scared the living daylight out of me as I left my house in the morning. They would squawk, poop and peck at the eaves and leave a terrible mess on my front porch. This year I was surprised that there was no mess, yet I heard bird talk on the porch. About a week ago I was met with a big inquisitive eye as I left the house. The dove, quiet as can be, watched me leave and I noticed she wriggled, side to side, presumably settling down deeper on her babies in the nest. "I hear you" I thought as I left. I wanted to not disturb her, so I began going in the garage door. I trusted she knew what she was doing and I didn't want to cause her any more stress. She was letting me know that she was not going anywhere. Her babies were right where they should be and she was keeping them safe. 

This morning, the former "messy" robin sat just as firmly rooted in her nest. My vantage point from my window seat allowed me to watch her. The slightest movement, the slightest noise and she was ready to flee...and leave her babies unattended. If I didn't see her go in and out of her nest, her babies would have a better chance, I thought. Now I am by no means versed at all on the behaviours of birds, but to observe them following their instincts struck me. We too should be "allowed" to be like birds- messy if we want to be, noisy, leaving our shit everywhere, fiercely standing our ground, able to flee to protect ourselves and our babies and  inattentive when it serves everyone best. We should be "allowed" to occupy a different space without judgement out of necessity or because we damn well want to-because we are to be trusted. People should go out of their way to make sure they don't interrupt our mothering-because  we need to and should be allowed to trust our instincts. We need to be supported in feathering our nests and taking care of our babies- without adding stress to what already is a "loaded" existence. May this "mothering Sunday" be all that you want it, need it and hope for it to be. Take flight Mamas, in the knowledge that you are loved, appreciated and so very worthy. You are enough.

 

 

 

Becoming Us Classes For Expectant And New Parents

Most of us when we are expecting think that if we have our homes ready, have taken childbirth education classes, have ticked off all of the to do lists that we are ready for the arrival of our tiny human! What most of us don't understand is that we are no longer part of a society that causes our status as parents to be elevated once we give birth....we in North America are not privy to the "village" that we all so desperately need to support us in our parenting journey. 

In over 25 years of working with families, I can honestly say that 1000's of couples have said to me "I wish we knew this before we gave birth" and all of them have questioned "Is this normal?" "Is it normal that I feel this way about my husband?" or "Is this normal for my baby to be doing this, not doing this or crying so much?" I have sat in thousands of homes and in my office and have helped these families understand that what they are going through is normal. Since I have become a Certified Becoming Us Facilitator, I am ecstatic to be able to offer classes and consultations to families to help alleviate the stress...before their baby comes and parent coaching when they are in the thick of it! 

Many families think that they will be "exempt" from being affected by having a baby. Nothing could be further from the truth. We become new versions of "US" when we become a family. 92% of parents report increased conflict and 67% decreased relationship satisfaction in the first few years of parenthood. The majority of my clients say that communication becomes the major issue in parenthood and I believe that is because most do not understand that parenthood is a time that is ripe for bonding and deepening of  our awareness of each other. Remember your sense of self does change as your become Mama and your partner's does too! Most couples state they miss the old versions of themselves and that they miss their partners as well. Our Becoming Us classes and coaching will help you stay connected as a couple as you navigate your parenting journey. We know that communication creates strong partnerships and this is what we want for everyone. Babies bring immense joy, love and excitement and considerable changes and our programs will help you understand how to best work as a team to manage the stresses of parenthood. Growing as parents and partners through the physical, financial, psychological, spiritual, emotional, cultural and social transitions can be achieved with much less stress when we are prepared. We are here to help. 

 

Our next two Becoming Us Classes are:

Thursday May 19th from 7-9pm (for expectant parents)

Thursday June 16th from 7-9pm (for expectant parents) 

We do one on one classes at your convenience for parents with babies who need help navigating the postpartum. 

The cost for the classes is $75 and includes a home visit in the postpartum for expectant parents! 

Our Coaching programs run around the clock, in the comfort of your own home or at our office, 1124 Gainsborough Rd. London Ontario

 

To register for these classes and programs, please email Carol at kilty67@sympatico.ca